Help Your Child Achieve Goals

Why is it important to help your child achieve goals? Being a parent involves more than feeding or providing a home for children. The real goal of parents is to provide what is necessary for the child to be self-reliant, make good decisions and reach his fullness.

However, at times we forget that children will grow up and live their own lives. It is important to show that they will be the very engine that will drive them to reach their goals, despite the circumstances of life.

Of course, we want to see them excited, happy and satisfied. If that’s the case for you, it’s important to consider how to help your child achieve their goals.

How to Help Your Child Achieve Goals

Raising children requires teaching them to define what they want to be and the means by which they can achieve their goals. It is your responsibility to teach them to plan for the future. For this, it must allow him to be aware of who he is, his abilities, the difficulties or possibilities when building his own vital project.

The life project is a plan and a search that is designed with the purpose of solving a person’s human needs in the future. This includes aspects such as quality of life, education, family, partner, professional development, religion, political posture, etc.

Carrying out the life project at very early ages can be very complex since the identity and personality are not well defined yet.

However, in this article we focus on  two very important aspects that will help your children make important decisions in the future: constancy and effort.

Teach the value of effort

According to expert Ma. Consolación Calderón España, in her article  “Education of constancy: Fundamental value in the formation of the person”,  children learn habits from childhood.

The author cites a fragment of St. Jerome’s Treatise on Female Education that says:  “Try to make him feel pleasure for what is the strength of reciting in a way that is not work but pleasure, not need but desire”. In other words,  it takes effort to reach goals, but it must work with pleasure and not out of obligation.

The effort is to be aware that,  in order to reach a goal, it is necessary to work hard continuously. If we don’t make an effort, we will rarely be able to reach any goal. However, it is necessary to have a clear reason, enthusiasm and willpower not to get lost along the way.

How can we help you reach your goals with effort?

First, it  is vital that you let your child develop a will and self-knowledge ; in this way, you will be able to commit to the goals you propose. Also, it will be simpler to work with him in this aspect.

Another important step is to  set goals according to your age and ability in both the short and medium term. These measures will help the child to know the “delayed” satisfaction and not just the instantaneous one. However, both must be related to effort.

We must also teach it with discipline. By that we don’t mean to be authoritarian and inflexible. It simply  must be firm and demand that you fulfill what you have previously promised. In this way your child will develop self demand to reach any goal. On the other hand, you will not get used to a comfortable, uncompromising life.

the constancy

If we add a little bit and do it often, it will quickly become a lot. 

– Hesiod –

Constancy is the virtue that allows you to act with perseverance in decisions, actions or purposes despite difficulties. A person who is determined, acts with determination, fights fear, frustration and discouragement. For this reason, consistency is one of the best attitudes to help your child achieve goals.

How to teach constancy

One of the most important points in developing constancy is patience. Without it, your child may despair of not getting results right away or even become frustrated. Therefore,  show your child that he can reach his goals little by little, step by step,  as Hesiodo stated.

Another way in which we can help our child is by  proposing to practice a sport or activity that requires constancy. He himself will realize that if he trains and practices, he can progressively improve his performance.

In addition, it is important to  encourage him and not let him give up in the face of difficulties. It can reinforce your behavior by celebrating your small advances. Both actions have a lot of value.

Your words and example are very important in helping your child achieve goals. Give him the opportunity to feel satisfaction for your effort and constancy. In this way, it will give him a model to continue overcoming challenges throughout his life.