Emotional Predators, How To Identify Them?

A look, a word or a simple insinuation is enough to start a process of destruction of the other. That’s how emotional predators work.

Their actions are so everyday that they sometimes seem normal. Victims keep everything to themselves and suffer in silence. Through a process of bullying or psychological abuse, an individual can crush the other.

Just as in nature there are predators that capture and annihilate other animals for food, in human beings a similar phenomenon can be observed, known as Moral Harassment, represented by emotional predators and their victims.

Bullying or psychological abuse is a phenomenon that occurs in all types of environments, between a couple, at work, in the family or group of friends.

Emotional Predator Characteristics

The emotional predator can be identified in people of all ages, social, cultural and gender backgrounds. Seemingly normal individuals who are almost never leaders. They tend to be petty, self-centered and narcissistic.

Its objective is to morally, personally, psychologically and sociologically overthrow its victims, managing to make them destroy their own lives.

They are individuals who feel deeply inferior, even without conveying that impression, because they are arrogant and pompous. They are bags of remorse and anger masked, and generally of strong ideology.

They feel the need to be admired, desired, with inordinate urges for success and power. They show a disconnect with their own emotions, deeply despising their victims.

When they are children they tend to be the typical take the stone and hide the hand, the ones who cause fights but are not involved in them. They miss the spotlight. In adolescence, they are cold and distant, with little social success, surrounded by a friend or two who are manipulated. And in adulthood they are distinguished by being arrogant, manifesting themselves as owners of truth, reason and justice.

At first glance they appear to be controlled, sociable ‘and acceptable’ individuals, but behind this mask they hide a series of unconscious and more complicated intentions and procedures.

Who are the victims of emotional predators?

Victims are characterized by their kindness, honesty, generosity and optimism. These are people who have characteristics that the human predator envy and craves, simply because they don’t have them.

Thus, these victims will eventually become scapegoats responsible for all ills. An emotional predator seeks out these people to absorb their energy and vitality. That is, they want to absorb what they are envious of.

The victim is suspicious in the eyes of others, and the bullying process takes place in a way that makes her feel guilty, as people imagine or think she consents or helps, consciously or not, with the causes of aggressions that he suffers.

the choice of victims

We often hear that if a person is a victim, it is because of their weakness or fear, but on the contrary, we can see that they are chosen because they have something else, something the attacker wants to take.

Victims may appear naive and gullible, as they generally do not imagine the other to be a destroyer, and try to find logical explanations for the attitudes of predatory people.

They start justifying, trying to be transparent. To understand or forgive because they love or admire, they still feel they have to help, because they are the ones who understand the other in everything. Victims feel they have a mission.

As the emotional predator clings to its own rigidity, the victims try to adapt, trying to understand what their persecutor consciously or not, and never stop to understand their own share of guilt.

Image courtesy of Leonardo D’Amico

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